Cary Jean O’Connor

Cary Jean O’Connor (née Horton), of Arlington, Virginia, passed away on August 27, 2018 at Virginia Hospital Center.

Cary was born on July 3, 1969 to Rowland Frederick Horton and Candace Susan Cane in Bethesda, Maryland. She is survived by her parents, her husband Tony, her daughter Mary Alice, her brother Michael (Horton), her stepsister Karen (Nobles), her stepsister Cheryl (Griffis), her partner Kevin (Crick), and her many nieces, nephews and cousins. She was preceded in death by her stepsister Becky (Whibley) in 2015.

Cary graduated from Wakefield High School in 1987. She had been working for Pete’s Towing and Storage in Vienna, Virginia for over two years. Cary was a strong woman, who loved those around her just as strongly. She could always be counted on to make the people around her laugh. Her greatest achievement in life was her daughter Mary Alice, whom she was incredibly proud of.

The family will receive friends at Advent Funeral Home at 7211 Lee Highway in Falls Church, Virginia 22046 between 2-4 pm and 6-8 pm on Friday September 7, 2018. The funeral service will be held on Saturday September 8, 2018 at 12 pm with the burial to follow at National Memorial Park at 7482 Lee Highway in Falls Church, Virginia 22042.


12 Responses to Cary Jean O’Connor

  1. Hannah Rouse-Card says:

    My heart aches for all the family. Cary, is gone from our sight, but never from our heart. Rest In Peace, Cary

  2. Zenobia jones says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss she will always be remembered by me I will always remain your friend I love you with all my heart I’m so heartbroken prayers for the family love you too Mary alive you were all she talked about!!

  3. Dad and Michele says:

    Cherish each day, love your family and friends,hold them close for life is too short, We will always remember the good times and her smile. Wish we had more time to show her how much she was loved. God bless you Cary.

  4. Mattie Frazier says:

    Mary so sorry for your loss of your mother, praying for you. God Bless.

  5. Karen Lester Bullion says:

    My heart is broken. I am so sorry for Cary’s family and friends. She was my my friend all through my childhood. She always made my day brighter and I know my life was made better by having her as a friend.

  6. L Gray says:

    My deepest sympathy to the family at this very difficult time. May you find comfort in God’s word the bible at Revelation 21:3,4.

  7. Aunt Wendy says:

    Cary, when we were young, you were the little sister I always wanted. We fought and loved like sisters. I watched you get teased and tormented by aunts and uncles. I could almost read your mind because I went through all those growing pains just like you. For a very short time, when you were in elementary school, I came to live with you and your family. I was amazed at how well you looked after your little brother Michael. You were very capable and never grumbled. I was never taught how to be responsible or dependable or even helpful till I was so much older. You knew so much more than I did at such an early age. I always envied you because you could do so much that I was afraid to do myself. To say “I miss you” seems so trite. I have a Cary size hole in my spirit and heart. I haven’t communicated with you except with Facebook. I always thought, “well, I’ll talk to her
    soon”! Well, I will be talking to you everyday now! Love Aunt Wendy

  8. Aunt Wendy says:

    Cary, you were the little sister I never had. Because of you I didn’t feel so alone growing up. You grew into a very responsible child at an early age. You always noticed when things needed to be done. You were great at taking care of your brother Michael and helped your mom tremendously. I was always envious that you were not afraid of life and faced things that I couldn’t.

    To say “I’ll miss you” is too trite. I have a Cary size hole in my heart and spirit. We communicated through Facebook and I always thought “well, we will talk soon”!

    Now I will speak to you everyday
    Because you will be listening.

    I will be right here for Mary. Don’t worry. We all be fine down here.

    Aunt Wendy

  9. JB Brown says:

    I will miss Cary, seeing her always brought a smile to my face. Cary was such fun to talk with. I am so sorry for her many friends and loved ones. God bless,


  10. Marie says:

    Cary, I am so blessed to have known you. We may not have known each other for long, and we certainly had disagreements, but I learned so much from you. I have so much respect for you and your experiences. Thank you for being you.

  11. Kathy Patterson says:

    Dear Candy and family,
    I was so shocked and sorry to hear about your daughter. I will hold you in my prayers.

  12. Roberta Haggerty says:

    I too have lost a child. My heart will always have a hole nothing that will fill. But I promise the pain will ease a little , with time.
    Prayers sent to Cary, her momma her daughter and the rest of family

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