Bereavement & Aftercare

After a loved one dies, additional support is often needed.
Every individual handles loss in a different way.

While one person may experience shock or loneliness, another may feel guilt or panic. Still others may become angry, confused or depressed. Grieving is an emotional process, and it can be very difficult for many. That’s why Advent believes that grief and bereavement support services are so important.

Advent’s Aftercare Program offers our client family members assistance and the additional support they need, free of charge. We can suggest various resource materials, provide referral information about support groups in your area, and offer bereavement resources and speakers to grief support groups, churches, senior citizen facilities, and civic and charitable organizations.

Suggestions for easing the grieving process

Losing a loved one is never easy, but these suggestions may help you through the grieving process:

  • Take care of yourself.
  • Try to maintain a regular routine.
  • Talk about your loss with someone you trust.
  • Avoid relying on sedatives.
  • Put major decisions on hold.
  • Let your grief run its course. The healing process takes time.
  • Remember, memories are a way of treasuring someone you love.
  • If you feel the need for additional support, a skilled counselor or support group may be able to help you through the grieving process.

How to help someone who is grieving

When talking with someone who has just had a loss, it’s tough to know the right words to say. A simple “I’m sorry” will warm them more than any profound declaration. A hug or pat on the shoulder will show them you care. And often a sympathetic ear can be the greatest blessing of all.

Help from friends can be more important now than ever before to someone who has just experienced a loss. Something as simple as picking up the kids from school, walking the dog, or bringing lunch over can really help lighten their load. And suggestions like “How about going to dinner and a movie?” can fend off isolation.

 

Books That Can Help

 

HELPFUL RESOURCE

The Mourning Handbook

Helen Fitzgerald
Simon and Schuster

HELPFUL RESOURCE

Living When a Loved One Has Died

Earl Grollman
Beacon Press

HELPFUL RESOURCE

The Grief Recovery Handbook

The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses

John James, Russell Friedman
HarperCollins Publishers

HELPFUL RESOURCE

Good Grief

Granger E. Westberg
Augsburg Fortress Publishers

DEATH OF A CHILD

When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter

Judith R. Bernstein
Andrews McMeel Publishing

DEATH OF A CHILD

The Bereaved Parent

Harriet S. Schiff
Penguin Group

WORKING THROUGH GRIEF WITH TEENS

Learning to Say Goodbye

Eda J. LeShan
Avon Books

DEATH BY SUICIDE

Healing After the Suicide Of a Loved One

Ann Smolin & John Guinan
Fireside

DEATH BY SUICIDE

No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide Of a Loved One

Carla Fine
Main Street Books

MALE GRIEF

Men and Grief

C. Staudacher
New Harbinger Publishers

WHAT CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW

Tear Soup

Pat Schweibert, Chuck DeKlyen
Grief Watch

 

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