After a loved one dies, additional support is often needed. Every individual handles loss in a different way. While one person may experience shock or loneliness, another may feel guilt or panic. Still others may become angry, confused or depressed. Grieving is an emotional process, and it can be very difficult for many. That’s why Advent believes that grief and bereavement support services are so important.
Advent’s Aftercare Program offers our client family members assistance and the additional support they need, free of charge. We can suggest various resource materials, provide referral information about support groups in your area, and offer bereavement resources and speakers to grief support groups, churches, senior citizen facilities, and civic and charitable organizations.
Suggestions for easing the grieving process
Losing a loved one is never easy, but these suggestions may help you through the grieving process:
- Take care of yourself.
- Try to maintain a regular routine.
- Talk about your loss with someone you trust.
- Avoid relying on sedatives.
- Put major decisions on hold.
- Let your grief run its course. The healing process takes time.
- Remember, memories are a way of treasuring someone you love.
- If you feel the need for additional support, a skilled counselor or support group may be able to help you through the grieving process.
How to help someone who is grieving
When talking with someone who has just had a loss, it’s tough to know the right words to say. A simple “I’m sorry” will warm them more than any profound declaration. A hug or pat on the shoulder will show them you care. And often a sympathetic ear can be the greatest blessing of all.
Help from friends can be more important now than ever before to someone who has just experienced a loss. Something as simple as picking up the kids from school, walking the dog, or bringing lunch over can really help lighten their load. And suggestions like “How about going to dinner and a movie?” can fend off isolation.
The Mourning HandbookHelen FitzgeraldSimon and Schuster
Living When a Loved One Has DiedEarl GrollmanBeacon Press
The Grief Recovery Handbook — The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other LossesJohn James, Russell FriedmanHarperCollins Publishers
Good GriefGranger E. WestbergAugsburg Fortress Publishers
Death of a child:
When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or DaughterJudith R. BernsteinAndrews McMeel Publishing
The Bereaved ParentHarriet S. SchiffPenguin Group
Working through grief with teens:
Learning to Say GoodbyeEda J. LeShanAvon Books
Death by suicide:
Healing After the Suicide Of a Loved OneAnn Smolin & John GuinanFireside
No Time to Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide Of a Loved OneCarla FineMain Street Books
Men and GriefC. StaudacherNew Harbinger Publishers
What children need to know:
Tear SoupPat Schweibert, Chuck DeKlyenGrief Watch